I just watched Bad Moms– a movie about three overworked but underappreciated Moms who take a break from mommy hood for a while to live their long overdue Mom fantasies.
Being a mom is the hardest job in the world. You not only spend your time but give your all—energy, emotions and sanity, to the point of losing some for yourself. Everyone thinks you’re a loser, useless bitch who comfortably stays at home with your kids and add up to the burden of your working husband. Most people who haven’t been in your shoes don’t understand what it feels like being YOU. A full time mommy/nanny/helper/cook/all around. They’re not aware of the times you skip meals because the baby is not yet asleep. They don’t know about that moment you peed in your pants because you have no time for bathroom breaks. They don’t know about the hard work that comes with being a mommy. The tears. Sleeplessness. They don’t have any clue.
You’re exhausted and frustrated but you still continue to be a mom to your kids. Not because you have no choice, you’re the mother! It’s because you love your kids so much, you do everything to protect them.
Mommy Amy, portrayed by Mila Kunis, sums the story up through this line she dropped in the movie:
We have a lot on our plates, we can’t be perfect. And no matter how hard we try, the things we do for the people we love will always be insufficient to be appreciated. And it’s okay. It’s okay if you stop doing your kids’ homework or if you stop preparing breakfast for them every single day. Your kids will think you’re a bad mom. You’re not. You’re actually teaching them to be responsible and capable.
Mommy Amy teaches us the right way to tell our kids to trust themselves.
And in case our husbands, who are supposed to parent with us, kept on insisting that it’s the job of the mother to take care of the kids, lure him into looking after your kids even just for a day and when he calls for help, tell him this:
While you’re that kind of person programmed to be capable of selflessness, you don’t have to do it all the time. Take a break. Keep your sanity so you can continue showering more love.
Despite my busy schedule as a mom and a full time employee, I see to it to have some “me” time every time Zandrei is taking a nap. I watch a movie or read my favourite e-book. How about you mommies? What do you do to keep your sanity?